Excuse me, I have to go be awesome …

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OK, you know that question, the one where a super cool young something, definitely without kids, says “So, what you been up to?” or “What you got planned this weekend?” – that one, right there – the one which sends a mum in to a spiralling panic of how on earth am I going to make my life sound anything but very dull to this person? That happened to me this week. Note to self – I definitely need to get more savvy and have some pretty awesome responses ready to blurt out but I never do and I end up doing that whole panic thing … so lets rewind to the event … set the scene so to say …

Model daughter has a photoshoot in London. Cool photographic studio: screens, lights, uber cool music filtering out of cool speaker system, young cool types lulling around (trust me, cool features a. lot.) piercings, funky hair, nonplussed kind of vibe dominating the room and then in walks me … mum … not young, very not cool and anything other than a nonplussed vibe going on (I really need to work on that).

So … whilst all the cool young types are fluffing around daughter, doing hair, applying make up, piecing together outfits talking about recent shoots, recent lovies they’ve been with, parties they’ve turned up late to, nights they’ve not remembered, private clubs they’ve fallen out of, celebrities they’ve been working with … someone says “hey, mum, what you been up to?” And … there it is … that question … and my mind goes blank.

Surely, they don’t really want to know what I’ve been up to. Surely, they’re just being polite. But I can’t sit there and say nothing and I definitely haven’t got a standard cool response ready. What I want to say is stuff which conjures up images that I went out looking like this:

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Image thankย you to Fashion Gone Rogue

… drank beautiful cocktails with the beautiful people …

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… and ended the night like this …

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Image thank you to SLR Loungeย 

Oh come on … you have to admit this has to be the result of a good night … a good lifestyle … this is what I need to be sharing with these cool young types … but … no … I think I said something along the lines of “well, you know, this and that, taking kids to this place and that place … not much.”

Could I have sounded any duller, any more uninteresting? What have the kids made me? This is what I’ve become … a mum with nothing to reply to such a question. Trust me, he really would not have wanted to hear about my trip around Sainsburys, my ironing of 101 shirts, my elation at baking a cake that hasn’t sunk in the middle, my secret excitement about getting in to bed at 8:30 with a cup of tea and a good book when the husband is out (yes, I seriously do that !)

… oh but I do love my life now … wouldn’t change it for the world but just sometimes I wish I could sound a teeny weeny little bit more exciting … make these cool young types think that I’m living the dream … I’m sure I remember nights (or don’t remember nights, more to the point) that would have been deemed cool by even these types once upon a many years ago … but … if i’m really honest the pyjamas and early nights win hands down these days …

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… just saying …

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82 thoughts on “Excuse me, I have to go be awesome …

  1. I know exactly what you mean! Life is less exciting these days in many ways, but is so much fuller than before having my little one. PJs, a cup of tea and a good book are a regular Friday/Saturday night for me now! But I wouldn’t change it. Not for anything. #sundaystars

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  2. I went to a gig a couple of weeks ago with my husband, I was ridiculously excited about it after being housebound with baby for the past 15 months. It was a terrific night out but I’m pretty sure we looked like someone’s parents, haha!

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    1. Oh that’s funny! Oh I’m sure you didn’t – am impressed you were at a gig – we should do more stuff like that shouldn’t we?! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Happy Monday x

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  3. hehe, this made me really chuckle. I hate it when you get asked that question, I have replied “oh, i’ve got a party this Saturday” and then I’ve had to admit that actually it is me taking my daughter to a party at soft play. Oh the shame at not being cool. Though on the rare occasions I do get to go out nowadays I regret it the next morning so give me pjs and a book every night! #marvellousmondays

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  4. Haha, this post has made me smile. Sometimes when my child-free friends ask what I’ve been up to I really can’t think of anything to tell them! I’ve become a serious PJ lover though. Sometimes I find myself counting down the hours until it feels reasonable to put them on ๐Ÿ˜‰ #twinklytuesday

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    1. we need to have a stock of cool responses at the ready – “Oh, what have I been up to? Goodness let me think – bar opening last night, private art gallery viewing today – oh so many functions not enough time” wouldn’t that be fab?! However, I am in love with my PJs but just find it so hard to make that sound cool in certain company!! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment x

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  5. Haha love this!! I went out on Friday night, didn’t get home til 2am and am still paying for it now, on Tuesday!! PJs and bed are far more appealing to me, I actually dread having to go out now but do enjoy it when I’m there! #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. oh ha ha ha! i know the feeling – children don’t help the hangover do they?! My husband and I always think the idea of going out is more attractive than the actual going out – as an acceptance to an invitation nears we find ourselves making more and more excuses of “oh no why did we accept?” However, like you, once out it’s fab – it’s just the peeling the pyjamas off and putting on the face of make up that is soooo hard! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment x

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      1. Yes!! God having to surgically remove my dressing gown and then hunt out my dusty bag, then the drama of what to wear?! I’m so not down with the kids these days, always feel like someone’s mum….which I am! ๐Ÿ˜‚ I’ve got a girls night out in a couple of weeks and I’m already pre-empting my excuse to leave as soon after midnight as possible!! Xx

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      2. Midnight???? Impressed! I hate the pressure of knowing what to wear – have totally stressed about that too in some of my blogs when attending stuff with model daughter – i feel on permanent uncool territory some weeks! Enjoy your night out xx

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  6. Early nights are compulsory when your kids are young. I love pj’s and a good book. Now my kids are in their teens and going to parties I find I’m staying up late as a taxi driver! But then I do get to stay in in the mornings again ๐Ÿ˜‰ #abitofeverything

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    1. Oh no i’m not relishing that – we are just entering that phase and it’s completely ruining my whole Pjs and early night lifestyle! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment x

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  7. You don’t even need kids to love a night in PJs with a good book! The brilliant thing is that here in Sweden it’s a whole thing: it’s called a myskvรคll (translates roughly as ‘cosy night in’) and you can legitimately tell people that’s your plans for the weekend.

    Even so I know the feeling well – but at least now you can tell the next person who asks that you went to a model shoot, which is way cooler than anything I’ve been up to lately!!

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    1. Ha ha I know – i’d like to be able to tell them that but I’d never have believed it and i don’t think they’d be convinced if I tried – you should see some of these model world types – actually I think they are going to stay cool forever! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment x

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  8. Well, I think you sound pretty cool. Of course, that could be because I am also not very cool, but let’s pretend that we are both really cool, ok? ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I also LOVE to get into bed at 8.30 when my husband is out, which is almost every night. So of the two of us, you are certainly the coolest, if that helps!
    x Alice
    #abitofeverything

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  9. Love this! It’s so true, I dread that question and you get asked it all the time! I always find it weird when other mum’s ask me, because I think surely you know that I haven’t been up to anything!!! Or, are they just asking me to check I am doing the same as them??? x

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  10. Hahaha…I can so relate but I am happy the way I am, in bed with a good book and a cup of tea. No one asks me anymore because they all know the answer – chores! Story of my life. I enjoyed reading your post! #BloggerClubUk

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  11. I know exactly what you mean. The very thought of not being in my PJs at 9pm gives me the shudders. I tend to answer most “so what have you been doing this week?” type questions with “Oh ya know, snot, poo and vomit, same old, same old.” At least they only ever ask me once… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Dawn x
    #bestandworst

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  12. oh gosh, gone are my days of being cool too although I’m not sure if I was ever…! My children have such hectic social lives now and they’re only 4 & 8, once I’m done with them I’ll happily sneak upstairs into bed with a cup of tea listening to Radio 4. I know it doesn’t sound cool but it’s as good as I want it to get at times!
    #Bestandworst

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  13. Ha, I couldn’t agree more! Might have something to do with being in the third trimester of baby no.2 but my eyelids have an automated slam shut mode that is activated at 10pm. Pjs+decaf tea+tv+log burner are my idea of heaven ๐Ÿ™‚ #twinklytuesday

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    1. Oh wow – I don’t blame you – at least you have an excuse but I agree it does sound like heaven – enjoy! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. Oh and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and all to come x

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  14. Brilliant – it’s a bit like when someone says “tell me about yourself”! I like what you’ve been doing and I also like to party but it’s generally more pyjamas and book! But hey I have my work leaving do tomorrow and I’m out with some of the young people. I so hope I don’t end up like the lady in your picture. Wish me luck!

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    1. Oh absolutely! I think we just need to be more savvy with our answers because us mums are all awesome (just a little tired and weary!!). Enjoy your night out and thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment x

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  15. The latest I stay up these days is on a Thursday to read these posts!
    So been there…always feel so busy, but doing what exactly? I can’t tell you! Or, I could but it’d BORE YOU TO TEARS! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

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  16. It’s so funny that I popped over to check your blog out. You had commented on mine and I always like to take a peek at new people’s blogs. Hilarious! Love the pic of the lady falling out of the car with Jack in hand. I am pretty sure I have been there….long before my children were even a thought. Anyway…I live in a small town and every time my husband and I think “hey let’s get out of the house and go have a drink somewhere” yeah it reminds me that I should be home, in my pajamas, SLEEPING! Thanks for the laugh! #coolmumclub

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  17. He, he, I love this and can totally relate! I hardly recognise myself since I had our little one. My answers to that question are very often similar, if I can actually even recall what I’ve been doing (what is that memory loss thing about too?!). But like you, I would change it for the world. There is something rather exciting about getting to bed with your laptop/book/guilty pleasure of choice and a cuppa on those rare early nights for one ๐Ÿ˜‰ Emily #MarvMondays

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  18. OMG this is so me as well, I have this thing in my head that once my second is around the same age as my eldest is now – that I will be this super stylish, super witty, amazing life experiencing mum of two who hold down a super responsible job and is generally this amazing all round person that everyone wants to spend time with. In reality I will continue to love my kids more than anything in the world, wear clothes that are several years old and spend my time thinking up cool ideas of things to do an places to go with my kids :). In the short- term I am so going to have some answers pre formed :). Thank you so much for joining us at #BloggerClubUK I hope to see you again next week x

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    1. Oh your comment really made me smile – we have this ultra cool perception of just how totally awesome we are going to be as a mum – perhaps we expect too much!! I think you’ll do a grand job just the way you are xx

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  19. Ah, I am fairly lucky (in a weird way) to have been blessed with boring genes. I was being totally not cool long before my kids came along, so these days I am comftable and actually quite proud of my boringness which actually makes me just a little bit cool ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Thanks for sharing with us, Tracey xx #abitofeverything

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      1. If you should see me tucked up under my nanna blanket today because its a bit cold outside then you might change your mind ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  20. Oh yes, I can definitely relate! I think my answer would have been quite similar to yours. It might not sound exciting but there’s a lot to be said for sitting in bed in your pyjamas at 8.30pm with a good book and a cup of tea! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  21. I’m pretty sure I said the exact same thing in response to the exact same question from a 20-something who gave me a blowout on Thursday. My reason for getting a blowout, purely for the relaxation and to go home and do nothing that night and this weekend but mommying and wife-ing and maybe squeezing in a few minutes of being me! โค๏ธ

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  22. Love this, I am the same – chatting to a close friend of mine from uni the other day on the phone and she was like ‘what have you been up to?’ And I couldn’t think of anything interesting to tell her! She’d been out the night before so was regaling me with drunken tales and I’m all ‘oh, I did go to baby massage…’ ๐Ÿ˜‚ I so love reading in bed though, although recently that seems to be reading blogs not books haha. #chucklemums

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    1. oh that really made me giggle – what have we become?! Though I know that I’d rather be in I just wish I had some better answers to give these cool types that I meet! Thank you so much for commenting my lovely xx

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  23. I find myself mumbling (rubbish) answers to this question all the time!! I need to save the cab photo to my phone & say “this! Just this!” While waving my phone in their face & trying to look cool. If only! Bed & a book at 8.30 sounds amazing!! #chucklemums

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