“Of course I looked young … it was nearly 20 years ago!”

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Oh will you give me a break, please!  Ever felt like that when someone comments on how young you look in your wedding photo? Oh the beautiful hair, the immaculate make up, the dress of princess status proportions … I defy anyone not to have looked their absolute best on that special day. Let’s not fast film to a hassled, frantic mother 18 years on – 3 teenage children etc etc … that’s not such a pretty sight but I’ll let you in to a little secret – she doesn’t look quite so as ‘wow’ – let’s just say there isn’t a photo of that up on the wall – let’s just leave it at that.

But … don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t bother me (too much) that I look older now (well maybe just a little tiny bit) but when someone says it and seems surprised well that gets me … big time. Of course I look bloody older. Apart from the fact that it was nearly 20 years ago and it would be, quite frankly, ridiculous if I still looked 24 when I’m definitely not 24 … hmmm i’m sounding like I do care that I look older – arghhhhhh – that’s not where I was meant to be going with this! But, listen, in those nearly 20 years I’ve had three children – one of who is now taller than me, two of whom have bigger feet than me and two who definitely have way more attitude than I ever did (well almost…) – trust me, that doesn’t happen all in the first year of a marriage – that takes some serious toll on one’s youthful glow…

Add that together with the fact that I’ve probably had 3650 nights of disturbed sleep in that time, not slept past 6:30 in 5840 days, dealt with maybe 500 child sick days, numerous ‘husband with man flu’ days, handled toddler tantrums which definitely reach the 1000 plus mark and – oh my god this could possibly take all the blame for my ageing process – probably done 18,615 loads of washing … add this together with all the well deserved large measured  G&Ts and large glasses of white wine (I dread to tot these up but would argue they have been purely medicinal!) I think I have absolutely every right to deservedly look a little bit older than my 24 youthful care free years of when I got married.

Am I bitter? No, it’s been worth it (think I may have grimaced only a tiny bit when I wrote that). Do I wish I still looked 24? (Oh, do I really have to answer this honestly?!) No, I’m proud of what I’ve achieved in 18 years (still holding on to the belief that it would be very odd looking 24 with three teenage children in tow!). Am I considering a facelift, tummy tuck and bum lift – too damn right – Oh come on, if you’re only recently married, you wait … bloody ageing process, bloody wedding photo, bloody friends being surprised that I’ve aged … just saying!

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52 thoughts on ““Of course I looked young … it was nearly 20 years ago!”

  1. Do spill the beans, who said that?!? Anyway, you still look beautiful and doing a fine job of ageing gracefully! Am thankful to not have any wedding photos as I celebrate 20 years with Mark today! xx

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  2. A lovely post and really honest about how life changes you as you get older and have children. I sometimes look back at photos of me 10yrs ago and wonder why I cant ‘look’ like that or ‘be’ like that again and then I remember that in 10yrs I have met the man I’m with now, moved in with him and a had a child! 🙂

    #sundaystars

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  3. Lovely post. You’re right, of course we look different as time passes. And just like children do when told they’ve grown by someone who hasn’t seem them for a bit, we roll our eyes when someone comments. What did they expect?!

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  4. Brilliant brilliant post! I absolutely loved it!!! I was nodding along to everything you have said! I laugh now when people remark but mind you, it’s mainly my kids who say that! I know they can’t believe that mum was young once? LOL…Sharing this now. #bigpinklink

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    1. Oh thank you so much – that is just so kind of you to say! I don’t blame them for thinking we weren’t young once but even so it hits the sensitive nerve spot sometimes! Thank you for reading and commenting and sharing xx

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  5. Well said! If I had been dieting for 6 months, (or longer!), pampering for the last week and be wearing a blimming expensive dress that costs more then probably my entire wardrobe now, then, maybe then you could pass comment but as it is, I look at damn sight worse then I did on my wedding day. My children, however, are gorgeous and I can just say I passed my youthful good looks onto them! Thanks so much for linking up to the first ever #bigpinklink

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  6. I hear you! I’m nearly 38 now and my tots are only tiny but I can already see that the day to day malarkey has started to take it’s toll. My hubby very kindly pointed out the same yesterday (on Valentine’s Day. Charmed I’m sure!?) And that I appear to have aged over the past few months. My hands are like gnarled claws now after having had a baby wipe permanently attached for the last 3 years. But then what I lack in glamour I now make up for in… well… erm… wrinkles?? No. Ability to drink wine! Yes. That’ll do it. ;0) x

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  7. Haha, people sometimes say the strangest things don’t they! Like you say, I think everyone looks their complete best on their wedding day, especially if it was over 20 years ago. The lovely thing is that I’m sure our children only see the beauty in us and not the wrinkles (ok, not all the time).. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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  8. Aaah bless you!!! I feel exactly the same!!! It was our wedding anniversary a couple of week’s ago and someone said I must have married young as I looked like a teenager.

    I wasn’t. I was 28 when I got married but it was FIFTEEN year ago and in the meantime an awful lot of ‘life’ has gone under the bridge!!! Plus I have two year old twins!!! 😉

    Enough said 😉 #TwinklyTuesday

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  9. Pffft! We wear our lines with pride as they are proof of a life well lived…that’s my excuse, anyway, lol. Your wedding pic is gorgeous and I love the fact that you’ve ‘tallied’ up washing loads, sick days and sleepless nights! x #AbitofEverything

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  10. The worst thing about looking at old photos is that at the time, you didn’t even realise how good you had it! I pored over my wedding photos wishing my waist was a tiny bit smaller and my nose wasn’t quite so pointy. But only 3 years later I wouldn’t get the dress over my hips and think my hair looked gorgeously full and glossy. That’s the effect of motherhood on ageing 😉 Lovely wedding pic & lovely approach to ageing!

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    1. H ah – absolutely – i hate photos of me now but far prefer the ones taken a few years ago – we must embrace ageing and know that in a few years we will like the photos of today! Thank you so much for reading and commenting xx

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  11. Haha that’s a great post. Although scary to think that the amount of sleepless nights and tantrums and alike that we have to deal with will no most like total some scary figure! Enough to age the most youthful! Really good read #bloggerclubuk xx

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  12. Lovely post! I actually don’t like my wedding photos (yours is gorgeous by the way) and how I look in them but I do look young *sigh* but my ever sliding face just shows that i’ve lived a full, fun life of utter chaos 🙂 Here’s to more fun! #brillblogposts

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  13. Ha ha! This is a brilliant post. How life changes us! We age but I think that it is a fabulous thing. I personally, would hate to be 24 still. I love that I am 2 years of 40 and I’m a wife and a mother. But it is really annoying when friends tell you you look young in a photo. Well, yes, that is because I was young. Thanks for linking up with Sunday Stars. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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  14. I get where your coming from here. I stumbled on my (first) wedding photos a little while ago (the ones of just me that I didnt get rid of) and I had friends who saw them make pretty much the same comment, wow didnt you look young/thin etc. I was just 20 at the time. My reaction is the same as yours, yes I WAS young, what of it.
    Thanks for sharing with us, Tracey xx #abitofeverything

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  15. It’s the same story for me & my wedding photos, which I was just looking at today – by chance & thinking exactly what you wrote here. I was so thin! And the crazy thing was I thought I had a belly – HA! Having three kids & ten years later definitely changes your figure. Thanks so much for sharing with #bloggerclubuk x

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  16. Ha haaaa! Guess what? I’m just writing my ‘ageing’ post as my birthday’s coming up. This made me giggle. Loved the bit at the end about grimacing. And the laundry, oh my days. Yep…I really would love to look the way I was when I was 30 actually (not 24…too much puppy fat) but alas…late 40’s and all. The worst is that I’m 16 years older than one of my friends here and the eldest in our social crowd. Pffft. Maybe they keep me young. #abitofeverything

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    1. oh am glad you enjoyed it! doesn’t ageing get right on the bloody way! young friends totally keep you young – i have some but am little envious of their flawless skin if i’m totally honest! Thank you so much for reading, commenting, retweeting and following – you superstar! xx

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  17. So spot on! My wedding day was 6 years ago this summer and although I was preened to perfection than, I already feel the style is a little dated? So I’m rocking my way into middle agedness with style…mind you I may not feel so positive in another 15 years ha ha! And who cares anyway because the hubby is DEFINITELY ageing well 😉
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub – gorgeousness shines from within, and you sound pretty damn gorgeous to me x

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  18. I HATE that I’m looking older these day’s (nasolabial lines can do one!) but weirdly I feel way more confident in my own skin now I’m in my late 30s. I think having kids in my life definitely puts the odd wrinkle into perspective!

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  19. I have no idea what you look like now bit do you do look very beautiful in your wedding photo. It’s a lovely picture.

    I’ve only been married five years but I look a lot younger in mine too. I was pregnant when I got married and I haven’t slept a full night since the wedding. Sleep deprivation wrecks havoc on your weight and face. That’s what I’m blaming it on anyway.

    #coolmumclub

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    1. Oh you total sweetie – well i don’t look like that anymore! Sleep deprivation – arghhhhh – sleep does come back for a few years and then you lie awake waiting for them to come home! Thank you so much for reading and commenting x

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  20. Haha – I love it! Yes, it is a daft comment when you think about it. At risk of offending people a little…I always feel a bit sorry for people who got married in the eighties. They do look young in their wedding pictures, but they also often look just so…permed! Of course now that I realise how annoying it is to tell people they looked young, I will immediately switch to ‘you look so permed’. 😉 Of course, they would get the last laugh as my childhood was the eighties…my entire childhood photo records are adorned in shellsuits (I DID look young, though)! & your wedding picture is gorgeous by the way! #coolmumclub

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    1. ha ha so funny – so permed – love it! don’t worry about your childhood photos – with photoshop surely you can edit them to your taste now!! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment and your kind words xx

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  21. Yes I agree with everything!! Actually someone expressed shock only a year after my wedding (when I was aged 30) at how young I looked in my wedding photo. That was a bit of a blow and goodness knows what they would say now, 16 years on…

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