I appreciate that this is quite a strong title and probably conjures up all kinds of thoughts in your head about my husband … or more to the point the person not leaving my husband alone! Worry not, he isn’t having an affair … well, not to my knowledge … but I don’t like to take my marriage for granted … and, quite honestly, I really hope that there isn’t anyone out there whom I need to shout that title out to very loudly … because, trust me, I would … MOVE AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND, MOVE AWAY!
Anyway, I’ve read a couple of articles recently that got me thinking. Blogger @snotonmyjumper wrote a post for @Meetothermums recently entitled ‘To The Partner Of The Commuter’ where she praises the hard work of the mummy at home all day whilst her partner is out for 9-10 hours a day … it is hard and it is exhausting and you probably could be excused for looking somewhat frazzled and less than glamorous when the other half walks through the door (Oh come on, surely it’s not just me is it?!).
Taking this thought a little further, I read another article by Lyz Lenz entitled ‘The Emotional Weight of Being a Wife’ for Marie Claire April 2016 where she looks at why the focus is primarily on the wife in the relationship to put in more effort to make the marriage work. She even mentions that a friend was advised to pop on some make up, wear nicer clothes and cook her husband a hot dinner for when he gets home … now before I spit my coffee out all over this view … really?! I must point out here that the article wasn’t in support of this but what a point to get the backs up of every mummy out there in one fail swoop!
Now, I agree, in an ideal world I’d like to look my best when my husband walks through the door. I’d like the kids immaculate and the house perfect but … really … is that the only thing that is going to hold my marriage together? I’m going to hazard a guess here and say probably not … and I bloody hope not!
However, the contrast between the mummy at home and those girls who our husband’s spend most of their time with at work is huge. Now, I’m hoping that I don’t have to view these women as competition … I don’t think I’d win that one in the turned out category … but what I’d really like to say to all of those young girls at work, not married, no kids, reapplying your lipstick before popping out for drinks in the city after work in your expensive heels and beautiful clothes that your salary allows you to spend on you, just you, you, you (no I’m not bitter – can you tell?) and your uncreased brows, and your immaculate nails, your lack of headaches and your toned non-tired bodies … spare a thought that one day you’ll hopefully be married with a beautiful family … flirt with the single guys, not the married ones … give us mums at home a break … just saying.