Dear Blogger

Dear Blogger,

I just wanted to drop you a line to say that I know you’re upset about the ranking of your blog but you need not to be. Think back to why you started your blog. It wasn’t to be in competition with others or to be the best … it was because you wanted to write, you wanted to record memories, for you, for your children … that’s what you told me … and that’s what you’ve done … you’re writing those words you wanted to and those memories are ย out there being sharedย … but so much more than that has happened since you started blogging …

… you told me all about a brilliant blogging community, those parents that give such support and such encouragement and who are there at any hour to chat, to laugh to commiserate … you weren’t expecting that when you started blogging … that wasn’t why you started but wow what a bonus … you even call them friends now.

… you told me about all those comments that bloggers make on your blog and how some of your stories, your words, have touched someone, made someone smile, made someone laugh and sometimes even cry … you never thought your words would reach so many others and have such an impact.

… you told me how you are doing something now that you always dreamed of and how your blog is so special to you … it is something that is yours, away from being a Mummy, a wife … your own space to reflect, to indulge, to be.

… you told me how you’ve loved being able to read others’ words and stories … how they have made you howl with laughter, gasp in shock, cry with emotion … left an imprint on your being … you didn’t realise that when you started this journey … that this would happen too.

… you’ve told me so much but never have you said you started to blog to be ranked, to be positioned against others, to compete. Never have you said that you won’t read a blog if it’s not highly ranked and nor will others. It doesn’t mean your blog isn’t everything that you told me just because of a score … it is absolutely still everything you told me … that hasn’t changed.

So, I just want to say, don’t doubt yourself, remember why you started and remember everything that your blog gives you my lovely because I’m not going to stop reading what you write.


Justsayingmum xxx

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  1. Brilliant. I think that is really reassuring for a lot of bloggers and helps to re-focus about why people start blogging in the first place.
    I don’t get involved in any of the ranking stuff, it doesn’t bother me, I have seen others upset though.
    Great post x


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  2. This is such a beautiful letter ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it’s very easy to get caught up in all the stats and rankings and get a bit tangled with it all. Sometimes we all need a bit of help to remember why we started blogging. This has left me with a massive smile on my face. Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚ #ablogginggoodtime

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  3. This is lovely. I’ve only been blogging a little while, and I started blogging because I just enjoy writing. I try to treat it as a bit of a hobby and an escape, but I’m guilty of looking at other people’s blogs and feeling a bit overwhelmed and a bit disheartened because there are so many brilliant ones out there and I can’t imagine that mine will ever be anywhere near as good. I think it’s natural to want a bit of recognition, either in the form of a nice comment or by winning or being nominated for an award, but you’re so right when you say there’s so much more to blogging than rankings. For the first time in a long while I feel like I have something of my own that I can escape to and I love it – whether anyone reads it or not! #ablogginggoodtime

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    1. For the first time in a long while I feel like I have something of my own that I can escape to and I love it โ€“ THIS! Absolutely agree and this should always be the focus xx thank you for commenting xx

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    1. ‘Our space to just be’ – you’re so right – and I think sometimes we needed to be reminded of this – writing from the heart always wins! Thank you for commenting lovely xx


  4. I love this, after 2 years of blogging, my ranking is still really low, but my confidence in growing in myself which in turn is meaning I care a little less about that rank. x #ablogginggoodtime

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  5. This is lovely and will be so reassuring to so many bloggers – including me! I don’t think many of us start off blogging to be top of the tables and leadboards – I didn’t even know about them until a few months in to blogging – but it can be easy to get caught up in stats and rankings. You are so right that we all need to remember why we stared blogging in the first place and be thankful for the lovely, supportive blogging community around us.xx #blogginggoodtime

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    1. It’s such a gorgeous thing to be part of the blogging community and to write that just sometimes we need to step back and remember that. Thank you so much for reading and commenting xx


  6. Just popping back with the #DreamTeam to say thank you for linking up and and thank you for this wonderful post. It’s such a powerful message, I hope everyone gets to read it. xx

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  7. I use to be reallu obsessed about rankings. And I really did went high before. Looking back I have worked so hard to get there. And I notice how I am neglecting my son a bit. And I realized that it is not worth it. Now I am more relax about it. I still work hard but not so much that I forget about spending time with my little boy.

    This is such a lovely piece to read! Thanks for sharing. #ablogginggoodtime

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    1. Oh you make such a valid point – the hours you have to put in to get such a high ranking will impact on other areas of your life – glad you’ve got the balance now! Thank you for your comment xx


  8. Fab post Helen, I have to remember why I set up my blog on the first place, as I sometimes feel the competitive nature of it creeping in. I love blogging, and when I find it overwhelming, I shut the laptop and come back to it. I need to remember that blogging shouldn’t be a chore. Claire X #bigpinklink

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    1. oh it should never be a chore and we should also never think a break is a bad thing – it’s the best thing and puts life into perspective again – writing should always be a pleasure not a pressure (ah there’s the title of my next blog!) xx

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  9. Sometimes its far too easy to get caught up in the ‘competitive’ side of blogging and forget why we started to blog in the first place. I love the blogging community and having a place to document and share my families memories, I hope I never forget that #bigpinklink xx

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  10. I am relatively new to the blogging world, and I am struggling to connect with other bloggers. I mostly started writing for myself and friends. But they seemed to really enjoy it. So I though if try break through into the blogging community.

    But I have no idea how.

    I would really love to get to a point where I could compare to others though ๐Ÿ™‚ this seems like a really nice thing to get into

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    1. It’s a slow process of joining in with linkies- I found them the best place to meet other bloggers and start the whole networking building up – it’s a great community for sure!!


  11. This is just wonderful and I am so glad you said it! They are all the reasons I started my blog. I am in awe of the people who have very high-ranking blogs, but my blog is simply an escape from everything else in my chaotic life and something that is just mine (and not for work or my children). I love writing, and I am loving the blogging community more than I ever thought I would. I love how much enjoyment I am getting from the limited number of linkies I join, and from finding some wonderful new blogs, but if I did any more with it at the moment my work would not get done and my very young children would be ignored! Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚ #KCACOLS

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    1. that is the problem with blogging isn’t it? for all the positives the rest of our lives do get a little neglected! Thank you so much for your lovely comment and I’m glad you are so pro blogging too and the real reasons behind blogging! xx


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