So What Will Those Teen Years Be Like?
Welcome to the second in my series of hypothetically answering questions about what you think the teen years will be like for you as a parent of smalls … hard to imagine, I know … but how close to the truth will you be?
For those who read my first interview, you will know that the wonderful Sarah from The Unmumsy Mum gave me her answers and made many of us smile and some of us tearful … it’s hard to think about our children growing up … it’s hard when they are grown up … believe me!
Anyway, I am beyond thrilled that the super, amazingly funny, Anna from Mother Pukka agreed to answer the same set of questions also. Anna has a little girl and records the funniest vlogs with her daughter that you won’t be able to help smile at … the energy of this woman is insane! However, Anna also does some fantastic pioneering for women women work … if you aren’t following Anna you must … her energy and positivity is infectious!
So, Anna’s views on raising teens? Here goes:
1. I know it’s a long way off but what are you dreading about your child becoming a teenager?
The Internet. The Internet freaks me out when it comes to teens. I literally have learned
everything about parenting from my Mum but this is a whole new ball game. She had to
basically stop us playing too much Tetris – now it’s like this world of social media that I have no idea how to control. I fear I’ll be the one deleting Mae’s Facebook profile in a frenzied rage. The other thing is, my life is on social media so I’m bound to get the ‘well, you can talk Mum, look at yourself prancing about all over the shop’.
2. What are you looking forward to?
Seeing Mae define herself – who she hangs out with, what she chooses to do. Will she sneak a fag behind my back? Will we have a chat about that and come out unscathed? It was the tears and frustration that bonded me with my Mum eventually so I’m looking forward to riding the storm.
3. As a parent, what issues do you imagine are important when raising teens?
It comes back to social media for me. Having lived in the Internet for a year, I know it can be a hugely positive tool that connects people but I’ve seen the darker side, too where you can be left truly isolated. The pixels continue to worry me – I’m hoping there will have been a backlash against it all by the time we get there.
4. What kind of parent do you think or hope (!) you’ll be when your child/children are in their teen years?
I’d like to think I’m going to be a breezy, Missoni kaftan-wearing, Bolly-swilling mother who points a perfectly Shellac-ed finger to the dedicated teen loft space and say, ‘have fun kids, I’m going out OUT” as Mae’s teenage mates gawp at my effortless coolness and want to be me. I’d draw the line at MILF references – too crass. But now I’m fully ensconced in Project Procreation, I am more likely to be the frenzied seagull in Finding Nemo: “Mine, mine, mine, don’t you-dare-even-lay-a-finger-on-her, mine”. I might even ring up potential beaus and explain I’m a Roman Catholic and that sex before marriage is
generally managed in our family with a quick Tweet across Mother Pukka socials about how small your pecker is. (Too much.) But in short, it will be less Eddie and Pats, more Road Runner and Wile E. Coyote.
5. Is there anything you’d like to say to your own parents before your child/children become teens or were you an angel?
Oh I was like all other teens; pretty horrible. You’re in the halfway house between being a kid and adult – that’s not fun for anyone. I’d like to say to my folks that they did good. It’s tough out there!
6. Is there any advice that you would give your child/children before they get to the teen stage?
My motto is always ‘don’t be a dick’. You can be angry, frustrated, say things you don’t mean but there’s always room to say sorry if you were wrong and to not gloat if you were right.
7. Do you envisage raising teens to be an easier stage than raising littles?
Gosh no, not at all. Has anyone said yes? We all remember what we were like. At least with a baby or toddler there’s milk or fizzy sweets to avert the tantrums/ squawking. All I wanted as a teen was a fag and a snog from dean from Abbey National – neither my folks could deliver.
Anna, thank you so much for such brilliant answers. I so agree about the internet … it’s definitely the toughest battle in our house … I hope there are some answers by the time Mae reaches this stage … and oh my word … Tetris … LOVED that game … oh if only it were that simple now … though, to be honest, we wouldn’t be doing this fab internet engaging journey that we are on. So, I guess, like you say, our children have every right to roll their eyes at us! Oh the finding out who your children will become is really special … that’s a major plus point about the teen years and something I just love too. I adore your parent answer also … oh to be that super cool mum … but, to be honest, I think you will be … look at you!
Anna, I loved all of your answers and can’t thank you enough for agreeing to be involved … hope Dean from the Abbey National is reading this and that the teen years aren’t too horrific … I wonder how close your answers will be … I know that I’ve taken on board a lot of what you said … I’m in the middle of raising teens and it’s great to get a perspective from those not directly involved!
Once again, if anyone else would love to be involved with this series please drop me a message!
You can follow Anna on twitter here and on instagram here
Thank you for reading … just saying!
Yay two of my faves featured so far – fab read. I love the idea of Anna as supercool Missoni mum, she’s not a million miles away! Keep them coming xx
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Aren’t they just fab?! Ha ha she’s really not! Thank you lovely xx
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Oh I loved this. “Don’t be a dick” is a motto that I try to live by daily, and probably fail at daily. I love what Anna says about what type of Mum she hopes to be to teenage Mae and then concedes that actually she will be “less Eddie and Pats, more Road Runner and Wile E. Coyote.” Brilliant had me chuckling all the way through. A lovely lady, rocking parenting! #Ablogginggoodtime
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Just fab answers weren’t they?! So thrilled she agreed to take part – such an inspiring mum! xx
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Oh I love these! Love ‘don’t be a dick’. My one house rule is ‘don’t be a twat’ – it covers all bases really.
#coolmumclub
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Ha ha – doesn’t it just?! Thank you for your comment x
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Amazing! I love Mother Pukka… so hilarious yet super insightful ❤ you certainly do have some fabulous guests on here! Im excited to see who's next! #ablogginggoodtime
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Oh thank you! Thrilled with the response so far!
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This is such a brill series Fluff. I dread to think what mine is going to be like!!! Xx
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Oh thank you so much! Oh I’m looking forward to your answers lovely!
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Love these answers! Am so terrified of the internet for my kids when they grow up, especially my daughter. You hear all these horror stories about images being shared. Love Anna, she seems totally awesome #ablogginggoodtime
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Weren’t they just great?! The internet is scary but just think we as parents have to take even more responsibility at ensuring they are safe … it’s a constant though so can be very tiring! Thank you for your comment xx
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Anna is so funny! It’s great to get her perspective. This is a really interesting idea for a series Helen and I love your summing-up too – spot on (as always). Alison x #coolmumclub
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Isn’t she just great?! Thank you so much, Alison for your lovely comment xx
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Love it! Following you on wordpress.
#ablogginggoodtime
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Oh thank you! And thank you for the follow too!
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of course! Come visit my site http://www.fourprincessesandthecheese.com
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Wow, just when we didn’t think you could top the Unmumsy Mum you go and pull Anna out of the bag! This interview, is predictably hilarious and shows why we all heart Anna. She is the coolest Mum!
I don’t know who you have lined up as your next interviewee Helen? Victoria Beckham? Kate Middleton?….It better be good ha ha!
Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely. x
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Ha ha – I’m panicking now!! Thank you for commenting lovely! xx
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I loved reading this! Even though teens seems such a long way off for me, I know I’m going to blink ad those times will be here. I totes agree with Anna, the internet and teenagers combined is a scary thought!! Kat x #coolmumclub
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oh it does go quick but just enjoy! Thank you for your comment xx
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Great series. It’s so interesting to read what others think it will be like when you are right in the thick of it yourself!! #coolmumclub
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ha ha – I know!! Funny how they pick up on the problems that we are having isn’t it?! Thank you for commenting x
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I love Mother Pukka! I have to agree about the internet and teenagers too x #coolmumclub
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Oh thank you – weren’t her answers just fab?!
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I totally loved this! Love the motto and yes the internet completely freaks me out! I don’t have teenager yet but give it a couple of years and we’ll be there….I’m already shaking in my boots! #coolmumclub
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oh thank you for your comment – don’t stress – hopefully some of us bloggers with teens can help pave the way! xx
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I’m with Anna social media frightens the bloody life out of me. Great interview! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉
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Thank you, Catie. It is a real pressure for both teens and parents but I’m sure you’ll handle it perfectly x
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Oh God the whole internet/social media thing terrifies me! Trying to find the balance between knowing they’re safe and giving them some freedom is going to be a real test for all of us I imagine. Fab series, and if course fab guests!! #ablogginggoodtime
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It is frightening but as long as you’re on top of it you should be fine. It’s a constant though which can be wearing to be honest but I guess it’s just part of the whole parenting malarkey. Just a shame it feels like it’s getting tougher and tougher! Thank you for your comment lovely xx
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Ahaha this is brilliant – another superstar featured Helen!!! So funny. Don’t be a dick are definitely words to live by. The internet is such a worry isn’t it?! I think I at least have one up on my parents as I will have half a clue what’s going on – they just didn’t know enough about it to be very vigilant. Wonderful post ❤️
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Ha ha – weren’t her answers just fab?! You’re right about having a little bit of a clue – hopefully it will help – though teens are always one step ahead – trust me! xx
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Hahaha love the answer to question 4 – I’d love to be like too although I don’t hold out much hope… The internet scares the beejesus out of en too when it comes to parenting my kids, and who knows what it will be like in 10 years time! Another great post in this fab series xx #ablogginggoodtime
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Oh thank you lovely! It terrifies me too and I’m in the thick of it – hopefully I’ll be able to get some answers for you by the time you get there! xx
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Oh gosh – “less Eddie and Pats, more Road runner and Wile Coyote” … that’s hilarious! And probably true for all of us! #FridayFrolics
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I know – hilarious right?! Thank you for commenting xx
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As a mum of a 16 & 20 year old, all I have to say is Good Luck Ladies (tittering) xx #FortheloveofBlog
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oh you’re so nearly through it! thank you for your comment x
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Oh I still love this Mother Pukka even more. Thanks for linking up with #FridayFrolics
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I agree! Social media and the Internet scare me too! Hopefully by that time I can have learnt from this generation! #fortheloveofblog
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Ha ha let’s hope so! I’ll keep blogging my tips! x
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Brilliant. I think that one of the hardest things with teens as a parent is not having the answers, or indeed being able to provide Dean from the Abbey National. Thanks for linking this great series up to #FridayFrolics
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ha ha – absolutely! Thank you for commenting lovely! xx
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The internet is definitely a worry. My daughter is 11 and seems to be constantly glued to her phone or laptop. We have had several talks about being safe online and I do keep an eye on her accounts, but that will never stop me worrying.
#fortheloveofBLOG
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Oh I think we are doomed for a life of worry with the internet sadly! But we can only try our absolute best and lots and lots of communication too! Thank you for your comment x
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Isn’t Anna the best? Goodness I’m terrified of dealing with teens with two girls!!!! Internet will be a huge worry for us, oh and iPhones too! #fortheloveofBLOG
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She’s amazing isn’t she. Oh the internet is a worry but as long as you know and are in control then you’ll be fine – it’s just a constant nag! Thank you for your comment xx
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Ah the things we have to look forward to!!! X Sunita
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this is the third time this week I’ve come across mother Pukka, without having pooped over to her blog. That’s something o need to remedy as she’s a v funny lady #fortheloveofblog
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She really is amazing and definitely one to follow! Thank you for reading lovely xx
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Oh dear! Can you tell I wrote that as I was nodding off in bed! I wouldn’t dream of pooping over her blog!
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Oh I’m crying – as my girls would say! I didn’t want to point it out lovely!
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Oh I LOVE Mother Pukka so much, great choice for interview. “Don’t be a dick” – rules to live by lol xx #coolmumclub
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It’s just fab isn’t it?! Thank you so much xx
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Fab interview Helen 🙂 I’m with you and Anna as you know – I worry constantly about the internet for my children and knowing how to draw a line between cool, non-hypocritical mum and safety conscious mum. I definitely haven’t found that balance yet! Thanks for linking up on #fortheloveofBLOG x
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I think the balance is so tough when the problem is so vast. Am sure you’re doing your best lovely xx
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Blimey you’re on FIRE! The vlogging and now this, my clever Mrs Sandie. I’m not prepared for the teens years at all because I can’t go with the ‘well you know what you were like as a teenager’ because I had a strict Asian upbringing which consisted of going nowhere, doing endless housework, helping raise my siblings and cultivating my ugliness and insane facial hair. Utter joy. So no. I’m NOT prepared for the teen years. At. All. #coolmumclub
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Ha ha – thank you lovely! Oh I think you’re teen years will help you understand the turmoil of what being a teen is like and how you coped. Ugliness? Are you having a laugh? You are one of the most beautiful elegant women I know! Fancy taking part in my series? xx
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Great answers! I’m not sure how much I am looking forward to the teenage stage!
Sorry for my lateness – having technological issues this week! Thanks so much for joining us on #FridayFrolics
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Ha ha – I’m sure it’ll be a dream!
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